Thinking VS Acting
Cliches are a dime a dozen, but there are two that are appropriate when it comes to relationships and romance. Those two comments are “It’s the thought that counts” and “Actions speak louder than words.” These two concepts are unique in that they are both true when it comes to any relationship and they also much be somehow balanced in order to work properly. Each action or thought truly depends on the two individuals that are involved as well as the particular situation they find themselves in. On one hand, the gesture or the gift that makes an impact while on the other hand, it’s the thought or the meaning or the intention that makes an impact.
Along with the thought and action, there are many other layers involved in what makes any romantic effort in a relationship work or not work. First, it is important to stop stereotyping each other, trying to make assumptions about what he or she thinks, feeling threatened by their position at work, intellectually or otherwise, ignoring feelings and so on. Secondly, it is important to be yourself and accept your partner for who he or she is. Communicate with each other while really listening. Always practice good manner with each other even though you may be comfortable enough to pass wind in front of each other. There is no need to let it all go. Make your relationship your first priority over everything else in your life.
Stop making jokes about male or female behavior or conditions. While it may be funny for the moment, it can become part of how we view each other or how we fear our partner’s view us. Don’t assume anything that you aren’t one hundred percent sure about when it comes to your spouse. He or she will most likely prove you wrong. Don’t act as of every action was a huge sacrifice- martyrs can suck a relationship dry. Offer each other trust, hope, the benefit of the doubt and trying to understand how he or she feels before assuming any position.
Sometimes it’s best to begin slowly and build up to the more complicated aspects of growing a relationship with anyone. All it takes is one successful step in the right direction and you and your spouse will be hungry for more. Cuddle up together without the television on, the radio on, turn the phones off and if you have kids, put them to bed early. Take him or her to a special tree and carve your initials in together.
Take the time to do something you normally wouldn’t do that he or she is sure to enjoy. Men love to have their feet massaged and most women don’t know that! Sit him or her down in a chair, place their feet in a hot bin of water, wash and massage their feet, dry them off and go about your day as you normally would!
Try to find a way to provide your love with something he or she can live without but truly enjoys. Does he or she love a white Christmas but you live in an area where snow doesn’t fall or the weather isn’t cooperating? Find a way to fill your lawn with snow or artificial snow so that you are the one giving them a white Christmas.